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same_sky ([personal profile] same_sky) wrote2006-11-14 08:42 pm

headaches and lists

Yesterday, I had The Headache.

That is significant enough to give it its own paragraph. I left work early to come home and take a nap. Sleeping doesn't typically help my headaches. In fact, sometimes it makes them worse (as it did yesterday) but I had to try, you know. I was a whimpering mess by the time M and I got home from some scheduled errands that I didn't want to skip out on (namely, the library book sale.. which was a dud.. and food.. because I sure wasn't cooking.. and the purchase of drugs* for my aching head.) I have the occasional migraine, but to tell you the truth, they're usually not that severe. They stand out as migraines because of the symptoms I have with them.. sometimes my tension headaches are worse in actual pain severity but there seems to be something about a migraine that strips my will to live in a different way, plus the standard sensitivities to light and noise and vision disturbance and the utter refusal to respond to drugs. Last night, I ended up laying in a dark bedroom with the door closed against the glare of a computer monitor in a different room at eight o'clock, sans pillow. I dozed off, of course, because what the hell else are you going to do in the dark with a headache that won't quit? Write poetry? When M came to bed at midnight, I woke up to find (with unmistakable relief) that the headache was gone, and I was really excited that I could snuggle with the husband, in large part because I had been so very bored. ("Ooh, something to do!" I might have remarked.) Not that the snuggling isn't lovely on its own, of course, but you have to understand that after four hours of laying in the dark, asleep and then awake and then asleep and then awake.. something new was really exciting.

Second note, as I said, my husband came to bed at midnight, or two hours after we usually go to bed. This is because he installed a new computer game, and lost track of time so completely that he did not realize that time actually passes while he plays games. And then? He did the same thing this morning before he left for work. Sat down for three minutes and looked up seventeen minutes later. I told him I was going to come home today and delete that game before it had serious repercussions... but I neglected to ask him what it was called before I told him that, so when I asked which one it was, he told me that it was called "Outlook". Because, he never liked that one anyway cause it keeps nagging him to take out the trash and stuff. This is clear evidence that he cannot be trusted without me around to keep him in line...

M talked dirty to me on the way home. He said things like "We need to make lists tonight," which is like porn for me. So, a few minutes ago, we got it on--what? We got on making a list, you pervert. M sat in the chair and dispensed the appropriate whiteboard marker for my color-coding system and we updated our list of things to do. The funny thing is that.. we now have 35 items on the list. Four of those are assigned to me. Eleven are assigned to either or both of us. Four involve purchasing something. The remaining fifteen are all things for Boyo to take care of. And if you do the math, you will soon notice that I miscounted somewhere. Math was never my strong suit but I did think I was capable of counting. The reason that M has so many more things than I do is that I also have a paper list on my desk that I use a lot more often than our combined list, and for most of the things that are meant for me. Also, the larger projects are things that fall to M by their very nature--they require more muscle than I have, and often, those are the things that he wants to get done more than I do. Still, it's fun to tease him about.

*There is a recall on generic Tylenol (acetaminophen) that I happened to read about yesterday morning. I, of course, am the proud owner of a gigantic bottle of pills with potential bits of metal embedded into the caplets, and that (of course) is the day that I happen to get a headache from a very bad place. Figures.

[identity profile] e11en.livejournal.com 2006-11-15 04:32 am (UTC)(link)
One of my bottles of pills checked out ok but the other is upstairs and I don't dare go get it and wake Anders so I will try hard to remember to check the list again tomorrow. When the local news reported this story and then didn't tell me where to check or any numbers (which I can understand now that I see how many there are) I naturally freaked out because I had just taken some and planned to take more soon.

One day I want you to come over and make lists for me and whip my life into shape. Ally's going to give my kids the drug talk, now I just need to find someone to take over feeding the family and I'll be all set!

[identity profile] ms-jacket.livejournal.com 2006-11-15 04:08 pm (UTC)(link)
I agree to give the drug talk, if you have any convincing anti-eating disorder stories to share with mine.

[identity profile] e11en.livejournal.com 2006-11-15 04:14 pm (UTC)(link)
Anti-eating disorder? Me? Surely you jest. My children already don't eat.

Actually my drug talk was going to be, don't be like your aunt Annie's college roommate who found that being bulimic wasn't an effective enough weight loss regimen so she switched to cocaine until she started breaking into people's apartments to steal tvs and sell them on the street (she went to NYU). Unfortunately, I find this unconvincing since she somehow managed to turn her life around, graduate from LAW SCHOOL of all things and now seems to be quite the upstanding citizen. Crazy as hell but legal.

[identity profile] ms-jacket.livejournal.com 2006-11-15 04:17 pm (UTC)(link)
Yes but don't you know any people who had eating disorders? If I did, I didn't know it at the time. I guess it's a big tie-in to self-esteem and control which hopefully I channel into something healthy.

[identity profile] e11en.livejournal.com 2006-11-15 04:25 pm (UTC)(link)
Only the above named roommate. I was going to cover eating disorders and drugs in one sentence. ;-)

My strategy is going to be get Ingrid involved with some sport that she loves, like swimming, and hope that the health factor kicks in and that she would rather eat well and avoid drugs so that she can have more energy for swimming. Of course that could also backfire spectacularly and have her avoid food and take drugs to enhance her performance. Gah. Parenting.

Sorry for the tangent, Kisha!

[identity profile] ms-jacket.livejournal.com 2006-11-15 04:32 pm (UTC)(link)
Yeah sorry Kisha, I think Ellen and I are due another phone conversation. ;-)

I'm also going the sports/music/some activity route. I'm hoping that some sort of non-school related thing will keep their minds of drugs and sex. I guess that leaves drama club out.

[identity profile] ms-jacket.livejournal.com 2006-11-15 04:12 pm (UTC)(link)
Do you have things that trigger migraines? Getting your period, coffee, cheese, chocolate, etc? I got my first one at 28 and holy Mary mother of God! I suffered from tension headaches in my last year of college but the photo sensitivity, the seeing weird stuff, you're right . . . go into a dark room and save the poetry writing for another day.

BTW, I get the list making/porn, if my husband starts a sentence with "Wanna clean?" or "We should organize . . ." I'm hot and bothered. Oh and color coding system? Can you guys adopt me?