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Ever run into people online (or offline) where it is SO OBVIOUS that they should not be married/dating to their current spouse/significant other? And you read these posts or listen to these stories and think about how what they have said makes no sense because it is NEVER going to work out the way they are thinking it will because (for example) their SO is scum, or maybe just that they clearly don't like each other. I don't understand people who marry someone they don't like and yet I see people doing it all the time. I don't get it. I know some people are just not co-dependent like M and I are, and that's totally cool.. probably healthier than we are.. but it seems like some people don't even want to spend time with their SO at all. Why even bother? Of course you can't really say anything when these situations come up because it's none of your business and probably you don't get the full story and all that... but it drives me crazy not to sometimes. You know I have problems keeping my honesty to myself.

... aaand I just realized that I let the registration expire on my car. #&@*#$! Now it costs more AND I have to go downtown to pay it. I was going to go on election day but I couldn't find the right paper as I was leaving. Turns out that the office didn't do any business unrelated to elections that day anyway so it was just as well, but I meant to come home and pay it that day. I hate it when I mess up the bills somehow. It makes me feel like a bad household manager. AND..is it even legal for me to drive the thing down there to pay it? Doubtful. Maybe I can do it Friday when my parents are in town. I guess that also means that I am homebound for the rest of the week. :/

Miss DorkoBaby has been a little restless so I think I should go on to bed before she wakes up (again).

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I know what you mean about watching people in relationships where I want to shake them. Hard.

But I figure they must be getting something out of it, or they wouldn't be there. It's up to them to figure out if it's enough or not and deal with it accordingly.

The only time I end up really pissed is when their behaviour to each other has the possibility of having a negative impact on their kids. And then I actually have a REALLY hard time holding my tongue - and often don't.

Frazer and I are pretty co-dependent as well... quite happy, for the most part, to live in our insulated little world. I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing - well, sometimes I wonder, but we're pretty darn happy with it, so it can't be all bad. Hehe.

I totally don't get relationships like that. Why why why why do you want to be tied to someone you don't even like? I've noticed it tends to be people who can't be alone, so they will take anything to avoid being alone.

Is it really illegal to drive your car with an expired registration?

I am assuming that it is because how else would they make you keep it registered? I think that if I got caught, they'd just give me a ticket, but better safe than sorry, I figure, especially since I don't really *need* to go anywhere today or tomorrow.

There are couples where I wonder how they ever got together because they seem so different. Like my parents, who have been divorced for about 25 years now. Thank god! I can't imagine what they ever saw in each other! I think it was just the late 50s/early 60s and, being good Catholics as they were, people just got married when they wanted to get past dating because there weren't any other options.

Then there are other couples where I think time and circumstances have taken a toll and they just got into auto pilot mode and live that way, or they don't know what else to do.

And I agree with Carrie too, I've known people who don't know how to be alone. They've almost never done it and they just can't cope so they fall into a relationship with the very next person to come along. Or even overlap them!