Babylust

Jul. 22nd, 2003 09:41 pm
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I'm afraid I've been bitten. I dreamed I had a baby the other night and I've been in baby mode ever since. I don't know why because in the dream, I was freaking out about what a responsibility being a parent was and how difficult it will be, etc.

On the other hand, we've done the math and figured out that the only possible way that our health insurance will be profitable (other than an accident or serious medical issue, which we won't talk about because I don't really need to worry about it) is if I start popping out babies. Magnus had to go in to work at seven this morning to listen to the health insurance agent tell everyone that the price is going up and the benefits going down. Yay. He was less than thrilled, since him arriving at work at seven means that he has to get up at five, and they certainly didn't pay anyone to be there. "Maybe we should think about moving to Sweden now," he says pissily. "Yeah." I sigh. Course, we don't mean it, but we'll gripe about it for a week or two anyway. As it turns out, our lovely insurance company will only pay for 12 chiropractor visits per year, and will only pay for therapeutic massage if billed as a chiro visit, even though they claim they pay for it in general. I just counted out the visits, and I've been thirteen times already, plus at least four massages. It's not that the money is a huge problem, but it's money I'd rather not spend if I don't have to. So do the exercises, I know, I know. I get so annoyed with his office, too, because no one ever knows what's going on in regards to billing. Tell me how much I owe you. I will pay. That's how it works, and not any of this "Don't you know how much you owe us?" stuff.

Why am I ranting about insurance? I feel like my aunt. We always used to make fun of her for talking about insurance when she was in the same room with my cousin's father and her mother-in-law, both of whom worked as teacher's aides in different counties. She always gets aggravated at us for teasing her, which is, of course, why we do it. Anyway. Oooh. Magnus is coming in. With a mando with strings on it!!!! How exciting that it's at that point already! It's in desparate need of tuning, but it has a nice sound to it. Hmm. I guess most people would be surprised that I said "already" at that point. He's been working on this silly thing for months and months and months. I'm mostly uninterested in the process, but this final product thing is pretty cool. My husband is a luthier! (Alien luthier, as he prefers to be known.)

Anyway, babies. I thought I should clarify my meaning.. we're not *actually* ready to reproduce, I'm just a little hormonal right now and cute cuddly things make me weak in the knees. We're not planning on pursuing parenthood until we have an actual stable economy. This is a concept that bugs the heck out of my mother and my aunt, who are of the notion that you'll never have as much money as you want before you start having kids, so might as well have them as soon as possible. Well, no, I imagine we could save all our lives for these little rugrats and still not be "ready" but all we're really interested in is having jobs that do not have the overwhelming fear of termination or stench of rotten fruit hanging over them. I don't think that's too much to ask. I just thought I should mention it before someone starts knitting booties or something.

Date: 2003-07-22 06:44 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] denyeverything.livejournal.com
*puts down the yarn and knitting needles*

I can't wait till you guys have a baby, actually. You are going to be the COOLEST parents ever! I was in baby-mode for two years before I got pregnant. I kept saying we needed to wait, save up some money, make sure we were able to financially support him/her and then still be able to have some fun with what was left over once in a while. Then, outta the blue Miss Priss decided she was tired of us goofing around. *lol* You sound like you really have a great attitude and outlook on everything, thoo! =D

*hugs*

Date: 2003-07-23 12:11 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] same-sky.livejournal.com
Awwww. You're such a sweetie. I do hope we're good parents. I also wouldn't be surprised if our own future kidlets will let us know when they want to be born as well.. nothing is failsafe. ;) I almost hope it happens that way, actually, at some later point. Surprises are nice. :)

Date: 2003-07-22 07:08 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] stephbairey.livejournal.com
You know, there's never a good time to have babies. Waiting until conditions are right often means never having them. :) I say, go for it!

Date: 2003-07-23 12:20 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] same-sky.livejournal.com
That's true.. but we're not *quite* ready in other ways either. And we're not really planning on waiting til things are *right*, just a little less *wrong*. But it wouldn't be a disaster or a problem right now, of course, just not the best of times for it. :)

Date: 2003-07-22 08:13 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] courtesy.livejournal.com
No, I think you have the right attitude. It's good to be in secure jobs, but of course there is never the perfect time, it just becomes the perfect time when it happens. When I had Isabelle I really didn't think I was ready ... Ha! Just wanted to freak you out ;) .. no just kidding ... I think I feel similar to you although I'm of course much closer to the age of impending doom when the 'system' doesn't allow child-producing ;) Out of all of my friends I've actually been the one who's most sure that I want kids, who adores them, and who they generally love, etc. But I've never been in a rush to have them. As I put it 'I'm really looking forward to when I want to have kids' :) I have big swells of 'weak knees' and my brother's recent baby hasn't helped that. But it would never push me over to the edge. 100% of the time I'm obsessed with little kids - if I see them in the street I can absolutely crack up laughing at them, but then I do that with dogs too so I'm guessing that's not a good motivation to churn one out just yet - a kid that is ;) My friend Blackie shares this double obsession. Squidgy nappy bums can literally have me rolling in a supermarket aisle with laughter and adoration :) And so it's weird that recently I've been thinking 'sheesh, I'm really enjoying life like this, I'm not sure I'm prepared to give that up' but then I know I will still have them, even if I have to adopt and that those thoughts are just part of getting older and perhaps getting more set in my ways or in fact more closer to having kids I guess? Not sure. But it's all fun :D

Date: 2003-07-23 12:35 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] same-sky.livejournal.com
Isabelle, huh? *giggle* I know exactly what you mean. Regardless of what I said in this hormone-induced entry, I'm really still there. I'm really enjoying the anticipation of having babies without the actual worry of having them. There was a sitcom scene where the guy says he really wants kids "when it's not so... NOW!" and that pretty much sums it up. But right now, Magnus and I spend all of our time together, we go to bed when we want and get up when we want (on the weekends, at least..hehe) and if we want to head out of town for the day or the weekend then we can do it without worrying about anything. (Well, the fish, but they'll be fine for a day or two without food.) Maybe sooner than we thought originally, though. And it's excellent to not be completely NOT ready. :)

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